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You or your partner may find you love G-spot stimulation. You may think it's a nice enhancement, but hardly mind-blowing. You may not feel much of anything. Or you may find it downright uncomfortable. For one thing, everybody has unique sexual responses, and just as no two women will respond to nipple stimulation in exactly the same way, no two women will respond to G-spot stimulation in exactly the same way. For another thing, the size and development of the urethral sponge can vary from woman to woman, so for you the G-spot may be literally no big deal.
The G-spot is a little bit of heaven located just the other side of the pubic bone on the upper wall of the vagina . . . yummmm.
G-spot stimulation doesn't really do too much for me. It's an interesting sensation, but I don't get off on it. One of my lovers finds it very uncomfortable, another found it very stimulating.
It's easier to find the G-spot if you're already aroused, as the urethral sponge will have begun to swell and be more prominent. You're also more likely to enjoy the sensations of G-spot stimulation if you're excited to begin with.
Stimulating my G-spot is a powerful sensation, if I am already aroused. If I'm not aroused already, G-spot stimulation doesn't seem to get me there.
I have to feel the need for it in order for it to be pleasurable. If I'm touched there without wanting it, the sensation is annoying and uncomfortable.
When you first stimulate the G-spot, you'll probably feel an urge to urinate. After a few seconds, this sensation should subside. If it would make you more comfortable to know that your bladder is empty, try urinating before you embark on your explorations. The "oh no, I'm gonna pee!" sensation is a natural result of pressure against your urethra. With experience, you may come to reinterpret this sensation as purely pleasurable.
G-spot stimulation can initially feel unpleasant (due to a desire to urinate), but then the sensations become much more intense, deep and full-bodied than those from clitoral stimulation.
First contact with my G-spot usually results in a quick jolt of pleasure, then continues as a long, comfortably energetic feeling.
Location, location, location
You may or may not be able to reach the front wall of your vagina with
your own fingers, especially if you're lying on your back. Some women report
that they can reach the G-spot when lying on their backs as long as their
knees are pressed up against their chests.
Usually I'm on my back, propped up against pillows. I need my legs drawn up so my knees and thighs are wide. Partly this just feels damn good, and partly this makes it possible for me to stroke my own cervix and G-spot.
You'll probably find it easier to try squatting, lying on your stomach, or propping yourself on your hands and knees. Reach your fingers an inch or two in from the vaginal opening, and crook them toward the front wall of the vagina in a "come hither" motion.
The G-spot is responsive to pressure, but not to light touch. If you brush lightly around the inside of the vagina, you'll probably not feel anything. Instead, press firmly into the vaginal wall. Remember, the G-spot isn't on the vaginal wall; it's felt through the vaginal wall.
As you explore the vaginal wall from the pubic bone up toward the cervix, you should feel a slightly ridged area that begins to swell. You may find it helpful to take your other hand and press down on the outside of your belly just above the pubic hair line--sometimes you can feel the G-spot area swelling between your two hands. Here's how some of our survey respondents describe the G-spot:
To me the G-spot feels just like it's described in various texts: a spongy circle about the size of an almond. Mine is located just in front of my cervix, in the top of the vaginal wall. I felt for it with my middle finger once when I was masturbating and was rather surprised to find it so easily.
The G-spot feels like a small cushion nestled up against my pubic bone--the texture of the skin there seems different, lightly ridged as opposed to the super-smooth skin around it.
My G-spot is about half a finger-joint from the entrance to the vagina. It feels like a low mound with the texture of soft pumice, sort of like a ripe strawberry.
Let your partner's fingers do the walking
Many women find it easiest to locate the G-spot with the help of a
friend. Perhaps you can't quite reach the G-spot, or you can't comfortably
sustain pressure on it with your own fingers. This is why some women only
become aware of the G-spot with the help of a partner.
I can't tell you how to get there, but I sure know when you're there!
I discovered the spot rather clinically when a boyfriend who was taking a sexuality class guided me in looking for it.
The following words are addressed to nimble-fingered partners everywhere. If you're interested in stimulating your partner's G-spot, you're likely to have the greatest success by exploring the front wall of her vagina with your fingers.
I haven't had much success hitting the G-spot with anything but fingers. Most toys don't have the right curve. I've had the best results on my back and on my stomach with a partner's fingers--he uses them well.
For G-spot stimulation, I need to be on my back, knees up, back rounded. It's very hard to reach the spot myself; I need a partner with agile fingers.
Start with your partner lying on her stomach, legs apart, with her hips slightly raised. Insert your index and/or middle fingers, palm down, and press against the front wall of her vagina in the area behind the pubic bone. Alternately, you can launch your explorations with your partner on her back, knees up, while you crook your fingers up toward her navel. Experiment with circling, rocking and massaging motions, but keep your touch firm and consistent. Ask your partner for feedback. With time and practice, you'll both learn what does the trick.
I find steady pressure against the G-spot most pleasurable. Manipulation or rubbing is irritating and makes me feel as if I have to urinate. Constant pressure with a penis (from behind), fingers or a curved dildo is best.
I can tell when I've hit the spot because my partner makes a tensing motion inside her vagina.
Once you've located the G-spot, you can try hooking your fingers behind the pubic bone and rhythmically pressing into the area; your thumb and the palm of your hand will be in position to stimulate her clitoris at the same time.
I use two fingers to penetrate my lover and stroke the G-spot with fairly strong but short movements until she ejaculates.
I get the best stimulation from one or two fingers massaging slowly and forcefully.
Some women find that one or two fingers don't provide sufficient stimulation of the G-spot and that they have to be "filled up" before they become aware of it. Every woman has a different comfort zone regarding penetration, and personal preferences range from a-pinky-at-most to king-sized-is-best. The vagina is highly muscular and expandable; with sufficient time, arousal and lubricant, many women can accommodate an entire hand in the vagina. "Fisting" is the term used for penetrating a partner with your hand.
If you or your partner enjoy vaginal fisting, you may discover that this is one sure-fire way to enhance awareness of all the vaginal hot spots. As Annie Sprinkle cheerily comments in her video Sluts and Goddesses, "if you really can't locate your Goddess-spot, try getting fist-fucked and you can't miss it!"
I've discovered that while being fisted my sensitivity level goes
up so dramatically that any pressure anywhere inside the vagina feels incredibly
erotic and stimulating, but that during penetration with a dildo or fingers,
that intense sensation is not there. I think the pressure of fisting is
stimulating the G-spot.
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